Okay, we’re talking about a heated topic today — female relationships. I know at first glance you may not think this is all that fiery of a topic but, mind you, it IS.
Have you ever been in a friendship…
- That ended horribly?
- Where you were taken advantage of?
- If you think about it you end up in tears?
- Where you felt misunderstood?
- Where you feel like you screwed up?
- Where you felt like she tore you down when you were starting to rise
- Where you felt like you couldn’t be fully yourself (she was ultimately an un-safe person)
We all have work to do in this area.
And if you don’t think this pain isn’t causing you to self-sabotage in some way (overeating, drinking, not taking time for yourself, making excuses) then you are mistaken.
As I mentioned before, I work with clients to help them overcome this type of sabotage so they can finally care for themselves and level up.
I don’t work on surface level things.
We go deep to find the voids in their life that are causing this unhealthy behavior and every.single.gosh-damn.time I bring this up…they fight it.
“Oh no. It’s fine. I don’t need a lot of friends.”
“I’m too busy anyway.”
“I have a few friends — we see each other every once in a while. That’s enough.”
“Oh no. I’m over that friendship that ended badly. I just let it go.”
I call bullshit.
I too had alll those excuses at one point in my life…and now that I’ve PRIORITIZED healing old wounds, and finding new friendships it’s been one of the most fulfilling things I’ve done for myself!
I talk to a soul sisters every single day in some way, and it feels incredible to have a circle of support and understanding like that.
I’m no longer trying to fill that void with work (how I sabotage and avoid my feelings).
So….
Take a deep breath. IIIINNNNNNHALE and EXXXXHALE.
And let’s dive in.
Click the orange play button below so you too can start finding your soul sisters.
They are looking for you too, you just gotta open yourself up to it. ❤️
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I met my best friend in middle school, and from the moment we met, we were attached at the hip. She was a tough-ass that taught me how to voice my feelings and I taught her how to soften and let go and have fun.
Giggling in bed together until the wee-hours of the morning was a weekly thing.
We stayed friends all through high school and often talked about how after our husbands die we’d move in together and be those two old ladies who ultimately died together. Our friendship wasn’t perfect, we fought but always made up.
Then, after high school lots of things changed, we changed and our friendship was feeling fragile. Then a big life event happened and we broke. It ended terribly. She hung up on me in 2010 and that was the last time I heard her voice.
It rocked my world because like most friendships her family was MY family. Not only did I lose her but I lost them. I was so hurt and sad, but in my heart, I could feel this day coming for years. We just grew apart.
It divided our whole group of friends and I often felt isolated, alone and abandoned.
Soon after that, I moved away from home town and into the mountains… and making friends was the least of my worries.
I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was pushing away any potential friendships because of this pain I’d been carrying. I didn’t even see potential friends, because I didn’t want to.
Like most women, I convinced myself that calling my two besties (who didn’t live near me) was enough. I didn’t need any more friends than that.
“I’d rather have two REAL friends, then ten so-so friends.” I was in denial.
Then, after having Wyatt (5 years after moving, yes 5 YEARS!) it became blatantly clear that I NEEDED friends.
There was a learning curve. It took time. It took patience. But I’m so happy I made it a priority because it feels INCREDIBLE.
I realize now how lonely I really was. I was so deep in the loneliness I couldn’t even see it.
In the audio above I give you the step-by-step I did to create this. How I healed, and how I moved forward.
PRESS ORANGE PLAY (above) and make listening to it a priority (even if you don’t think you’re lonely).
If you’re ready to make a big step forward in the soul sister direction, check out the Wildly Alive Sisterhood Retreat. But you don’t have to take it from me, let these ladies tell you how much love, sisterhood, and safety they felt. WildlyAlive.com/retreat
